Have you ever wondered why it is that you find some activities easy to do and you have great skill in that area? Conversely, have you ever been frustrated at being weak at some things. Not seeming to ‘get it’ and failing or not performing well?
Why is it that some people are skillful in some areas and apparently ‘stupid’ in others?
It’s all to do with the fact that we are unique individuals and we all have skills somewhere. What determines our natural ability includes our experiences and the decisions we make about them.
Here’s an interesting observation. Have you noticed you seem to like those activities that you are good at and tend to avoid those you do not like? Those activities you do not like are, co-incidentally those you have less competence at.
Whether you like something because you are good at it or are good at it because you like it is not important. What is important is to recognize that the relationship exists.
If you think of something you are really good at you will find you tend to feel a certain way. Think for a moment and recreate the way you feel. What is the feeling like?
Observe your level of confidence about the activity? Yes, that’s right, you have a high level of certainty. What is that certainty based on? It’s based on previous successful actions.
When you do something successfully what were you thinking at the time? It varies according to the individual and the activity, but be assured, you will find that your were learning or realizing something as you went along.
The main reason we have a low level of ability in any area is that, firstly, we have in place a negative decision regarding the likelihood of success. This negative decision is the result of past negative experience.
The end result of past failure is often confusion and confusion is the result of unknowns. In other words there is something to learn that you did not learn.
Skill in any area of life operates on a gradient scale. The more you know the more you can do, the less you know the greater the difficulty and so your application of the skill suffers.
What is the answer? How can you get over the negatives that face you? The answer is quite simple. If you are having difficulty in an area of your life and you feel negative or unsure of whether you can succeed, recognize that you simply have a learning opportunity.
THERE IS SOMETHING TO KNOW YOU DON’T CURRENTLY KNOW. – THAT’S ALL THAT IS PREVENTING YOU FROM SUCCESS.
So, how do you address this? Whenever you need to learn you must:
ASK QUESTIONS
Go to someone who is successful in the area you are struggling with and ask them how they do it.
So many of us are unwilling to say, “I don’t know.” Please recognize that until you do you cannot progress in improving your skill, knowledge or ability.
The only thing standing in your way of improving your ability is you.
The pathway to increasing your ability in any area is as follows.
OBSERVE
Look realistically at the results of your actions.
BE HONEST WITH YOURSELF
The only one you will fool is yourself.
BE PREPARED TO ADMIT YOU DON’T KNOW
The first step to understanding is this recognition.
ASK QUESTIONS
Be prepared to learn from others.
TRY A DIFFERENT WAY
Try things and be prepared to fail. When you do, try something else until you find what works for you.
RECOGNISE THAT FAILURE IS AN EVENT –
IT IS NOT YOU
Failure is simply the opportunity to do things better next time
ABOVE ALL – PERSIST
The difference between a champion and an also ran is that the champion never gives up.
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